Sexual addiction, as defined by psychologists, is a ‘progressive intimacy disorder characterized by compulsive sexual thoughts and acts. ’ Some people consider swinging to be a form of sexual addiction but it is probably more accurate to say that amongst swingers there are some people who are so obsessed with swinging that they can fairly be described as being addicts.
Over many years of running an adult swingers club, I have come across both couples and singles who present certain traits and behavior patterns which might indicate to a psychologist that they were sexually addicted. The main indications of their addiction to sex can be summarized as follows:
1. They appear to be almost incapable of talking about anything other than subjects connected with their swinging activities.
2. Their swingers personals sex life appears to be their only life. Everything they do will be planned with swinging in mind. If they plan a holiday for example, they will check out whether there are any swinging clubs in the resorts being considered and only choose a resort that has a club.
3. They believe that they have somehow ‘earned’ a good sex life by being good at flirting, have perfected sexual techniques or are otherwise seen by others as desirable sexual partners at dating sites here.
4. They may frown upon safe sex dating practices, claiming that HIV / AIDS are most unlikely to be contracted via heterosexual intercourse etc.
5. Single male sex addicts often exhibit their addiction by compulsive behavior with regards to attending parties or using premium rate chat lines.
Compulsive sexual behavior is then established and perpetuated despite any negative consequences and attempts to limit it. Swinger’s sex who is addicted to sex derives a sense of exhilaration from their activities that appears to be much greater than other people derive.
Their sexual experiences are rarely about intimacy and their accounts of their adult dating sexual adventures can often sound strangely detached. They are actually using sexual activity to avoid facing up to unpleasant feelings or as a response to external stressful, which, in the case of swinger couples, often include marital relationships.
However, compared to many other forms of compulsive sexual activity, swinging provides a very positive outcome of sex addiction.