Every woman has to face the question at some point in a relationship, “When is it ok to have sex with him?” There is no exact answer to that question, naturally, but there are certainly some guidelines that can help you figure that out.
What you need to avoid at all cost are the situations that lead to hurt for many single women. These situations occur for a variety of reasons. However – here are three of the most common reasons:
1. Fooling yourself into thinking that sleeping together means the same thing to him that it means to you.
2. Not saying anything about your feelings or about wanting a relationship because you thought it might freak him out or make for awkward conversation.
3. Not knowing exactly know how you feel and what sleeping with him will mean to you until after you sleep with him and a whole wave of feelings hit you like a tidal wave.
Now what happens when a man is made to wait to have sex dating with you? Good things happen in these circumstances – because he is forced to value you not for your body – but for whom you are. Not how you make him feel physically.
Having sex in the beginning of a relationship may just allow him to value you only for that, and not even get in to the rest of you. He may see you only as a great time, and you will never know otherwise because some people can be very charming when they want something.
Sometimes women fall victim to this in the reverse, as well. We feel so connected to a man that we give in and have sex way too early. We then think that we are in an actual relationship with him because he must feel the same way to be this passionate, right? Not necessarily.
On the other hand, if you still want to have sex with him while your relationship is still budding, then take the time to have a discussion with him – one adult to another – about what that means. Make sure you really HAVE a relationship, or define the terminology so that each of you agrees to where you are in your partnership. If he flips and leaves, then no harm done, right?
There are many benefits to waiting to have sex with your new man. It helps you, make sure he wants to be with you for YOU and not for physical reasons. It separates the men from the boys, as well, and tests whether or not he really is relationship material.