Most dating people are under the impression that women are very uptight and restrictive when it comes to sex. They think that they have to somehow try and convince her to have sex because she won’t do it otherwise. This is all just a big misconception. I will explain to you how women really feel about sex and why dating people are under the impression that it is women who are not willing to sleep them.
Dating People Think We are Judgmental
The reason that dating people will not usually have sex with men is because they think that we will judge them for it. This is to some extent true. I know I’m making a generalization here, but this does apply to most men. We will not consider a woman girlfriend material if she sleeps with us on the first night or we might label her with tags like being loose or slutty. Most dating people are under the perception that a woman wants to wait till the two of you have gone out for some time before she has sex with you. Let me explain to you why this will not work.
The Categories for Dating People
Women put dating people that they are attracted to into two categories. They either think of a man that they like as someone who is easy going and fun to be around, or they think of him as dating people who they have true feelings for and want a long term relationship with. If you come across as a guy who falls into that first category, you can probably sleep with her on the first night. You just have to display in your personality that you are not judgmental and you like taking life as it comes. If you fall into the second category, it becomes a bit more difficult. You may have to wait a few months, or even years, before you get to sleep with her.
The smooth transition
The advantage of falling into the first category is that you can always make a smooth transition into a relationship later on. The way you get placed into that first personality is by being lively, good humored, and fun to be around. When you first meet dating people you should be close to her when you are talking to her, and you should whisper in her ear regularly when you are talking. You want to establish the physicality early on as the boundaries that get put in place between the two of you usually occur during the first interaction. Keep in mind that the longer you wait, the less likely you are to ever get it.