When you’re having trouble meeting Mr. Right, it can seem like all the good men are taken. But the problem may simply be that you’re looking in all the wrong places.
The best place to find good men isn’t at the grocery store. Most men aren’t exactly in a leisurely state of mind when they’re shopping for groceries. They just want to get in and get out as quickly as possible.
1. A bar, specifically during Monday Night Football. Football season is a great time to meet men who flock to taverns to watch the NFL. When I was single, I loved going to Monday Night Football (even though I didn’t really understand the game) because the bar was filled with mostly single men, there was a free buffet, and the atmosphere was merry. Advice columnists usually tell women to stay out of bars if they want to meet suitable men, but I disagree. It’s important to see how a man drinks, and how he behaves under the influence of alcohol.
2. A class. I know, I know. You’ve heard this one before, but have you ever tried it? Let me tell you a story: My friend Brian’s longtime girlfriend dropped him for another guy. After grieving for a while, he dusted himself off and signed up for a cooking class. See, Brian loves to cook, but he put off pursuing formal training while he was with What’s-Her-Name. Once she was out of the picture, though, he decided to register for a course, figuring he’d meet many likeminded women there. Sure enough, he did. I advise you to write down a list of hobbies you’d like to explore and figure out which of them would also appeal to men. Then sign up for a class or join a club. See what happens.
3. Throw a party. While Brian did meet lots of women at the cooking class, he didn’t fall in love with any of them. So he threw a party where he could show off his new skills. He wasn’t picky about who he invited and told everybody to bring a friend or two. The result? A woman he’d never met showed up. They fell in love and have been married now for two years. But even if Brian hadn’t met his future wife that night, hosting that party netted him plenty of invitations to others, providing opportunities to meet many more people. A caveat: When you plan your party, don’t exclude married friends from the guest list. You don’t want your big night to feel like a singles’ mixer. Instead, invite couples and encourage them to bring a friend.